Wednesday, March 3rd., 2021…… I got up early this morning and
walked Rylee. I stopped and took a pic of those daffodils that I shared before.
They have really bloomed!
I was out early so I could be back in time to leave for my 7:30am dental appointment. Today was just a cleaning. After that, I stopped and picked up breakfast and came home and ate. After a bit, I took off to go to Albany. I wanted to go to Hobby Lobby and Target to look at pictures for my bath. I have one spot that has a nice picture already, but I want to move that to Lydia’s office and wanted one with some more teal in it to go with the rest of the colors in the bathroom. Also, I had seen a nice teal 5x7 rug at Jerry’s that I think I will go back and get. Pics of those to follow in the future. Didn’t find anything so I came back home. I rested for a while then headed back because I forgot to stop at Lowes to get the square metal tubing that I needed for the boat guides. Duhh! Oh well, it is a beautiful day and it’s nice to be out. Rylee liked the break because she was able to go play in her racetrack! Dirty dog but all I have to do is hose her off.
After a bit, I went out and got a Hangry Chili Burger and fries for dinner and brought that home. Later, there was a sheriff’s squad car pulling up in my driveway. Very odd at this hour! I went out to meet him and he broke the bad news to me. My oldest son Jeff, lost control of his motorcycle and crashed and did not survive. He said he went into a canal in Florida about ½ mile or so from his house. He gave me the number from the contact officer in Cape Coral and I called her and got more info. She said she had spoken to Krista and she said they rode to the bar together and that later, she left with her girlfriend and said he had decided to ride his bike and could make it the 2 miles or so back home. The officer told me that when they recovered him from the canal, they saw he was in riding gear so they went back upstream and found where he had lost control and went into the water. She also said that at Krista’s request, they notify me in person here in Oregon. I called Krista and we talked for a bit. She said her mom is coming down to be with the family. We don’t know any more at this time. I immediately set out to call the rest of my family and a few good friends. It did help to keep talking and sis and Cherrelyn came over to be with me as well. I stayed up and made a couple of Facebook posts – one on my fb and one on Jeff’s. But eventually I had to try to get some sleep and went to bed but tossed and turned even with a Melatonin.
Thursday, March 4th., 2021…… I woke up early for some reason so
I am very tired today. I immediately went through my morning routine with Rylee
and then made coffee. I had a few more calls to make. Sis came by with Quincy
and then headed off for her first covid vaccine and then brought back
breakfast. I kind of went around the house in a daze but filled some time doing
laundry and cleaning the toilet. I also went out and spent a few minutes
working on the boat trailer but just couldn’t stay out there. I have been
reading facebook replies to the posts out there. Maryanne and Tia both posted as
well so there is a large circle of friends sending much appreciated prayers and
condolences our way. Thank you all!
I had already asked Kirk to bring
the trailer over today or tomorrow so I could get the mower loaded and down to
the place for service. We managed to get that task completed and when I got
back, I was done for the day. So more many things to do. But all are on hold
for Krista at this time…. Krista’s mom gets in tonight. I’m glad she will have
her there. Krista and I texted back and forth about a few things but not much
can be done at this time. Jeff’s friends are part of a video share from the
local tv news. They showed the crash site and then had the friends talk about
Jeff. Here is the link if you want to see it. https://nbc-2.com/news/local/2021/03/04/body-found-under-dock-at-cape-harbour/
I thought they did a good job with
the video. They didn’t mention that he had left a bar and alcohol was involved.
They also have set up a GoFundMe page for Krista and the link is on the page.
Friday, March 5th., 2021……
Krista and I texted back and forth again today. I want her and her mom
to be able to be with each other and I know mom will be helping her in the
things she has to do. First up was the obituary and I gave her info (Lydia’s
maiden name, etc,) for that. She has insurance and bank and finance co. to work
thru on her own.
As for my day, it was the worst so
far. I just couldn’t get anything going and felt disconnected all day. My sister and I talked a lot today and,
although she is feeling it as well, I think she has helped me with some issues
I have. I also spoke to Randy and naturally he is broken up about all of this.
Losing a brother and a mother so close is hard for him. I plan to get back with
Krista tomorrow with answers to some of her questions about services,
cremation, his possessions, etc. I tried to make it a normal day and took Rylee
out and went through my normal routine. Couldn’t get anything done so I gave up
and stayed in the house for the day. I went to bed early and I guess I went
right to sleep.
Saturday, March 6th., 2021…… I was up early (4:30am) and
texted Krista to check in to see how she was doing. I asked her to call me because
I had some ideas to share. She called back and we talked for a good long time.
Besides talking about the events that night, we also discussed cremation. I told
her I would pay for the cremation and take his ashes if she wanted. I also
suggested splitting them up and said that maybe they could ‘unofficially’ take some
with them on the benefit ride to spread. I think he would have liked that idea.
There will be no service there (covid) so I will be planning something in
conjunction with Lydia’s celebration of life whenever that can take place. That
said, and unless things change, neither Randy or I will be going back to
Florida at this time. That prompted another question - Krista had asked about
me wanting anything and that caused me to think about all of his boxed-up stuff
he had from Calif. that is in their garage. I offered to pay for shipping
if/when she wants to clean out his things. She can put into a storage unit (that
I will pay for), or ship in bulk or in parcel to me as she sees fit. I will pay
for that as well. After getting all of
this done, it was daylight here. I proceeded to get going with my day and felt
much, much better. My sister, who went
down to see Butch today in Eugene, was also going to pick up her new shotgun
that came in. I asked her while she was there to inquire how guns are
transported because Jeff has a couple of mine (plus some of his own). Per law,
they need to be shipped and received through licensed gun dealers on both ends
so that can be done at a later time. While she was here, we made plans for a
movie night tomorrow. They will bring dinner and I will make popcorn and we
will hang around and be together.
I just want to say thanks to everyone who has seen the facebook posts and have sent their condolences. Everyone in the family has seen them and thanks you as well. Hugs to you all!
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